This is your last night of life, at least as we know it. The last almost-full moon you’ll see rising over the trees, the last time you and I will head out to the field for a chaotic race through red clay that’s still mucky from recent rains, the last chorus of frogs that you’ll hear cheering you on until you get too close for their comfort and they splash into the pond. And it’s a cold night, so we won’t sit by the picnic table enjoying the breeze or lay on the grass and watch stars. But every time I do those things from now on, I’ll think of you.
Your first–and last–ice cream cone, courtesy of Sonic tonight: Initially you were a bit tentative, but you quickly discovered that you adore ice cream.
There are so many things I could write, memories of you, odd quirks that I hope I never forget: How you used to stand on your hind legs and lace your front legs around your trainer’s arm. The way you put your paws on my shoulders and snuggle under my chin when we’re waiting at the vet. How you LOVE the vet so much I have to diaper you, because in your enthusiasm you pee all over everything. The way you take care of your cats. The way you put your paw into my hand when we’re sitting in your favorite chair together. How this afternoon I crossed the rain-swollen creek on a wooden plank and tried to coax you to run through the water, but then I slipped and fell in and had to change my shoes before heading back to work. The dolphin leaps that expressed your sheer joy on the first day of spring. All the laughter. All the delight. All the enthusiasm. All the love.
I think I’ve known since last summer that we were living on borrowed time. Moving back to Georgia was rough on you, far more difficult than I’d expected or imagined. And your leg, that shoulder you strained years ago, has grown increasingly worse. You have more good days than bad, but on the bad days you can barely walk. And even when I don’t notice you limping, you stumble during our walks, often so badly that you almost crash to the gravel. Still, you’re game. You don’t whine or beg to go back inside. You go as far as I ask; you’d walk with me for miles, your tongue out, your face in a grin, even if you could barely put weight on that leg.
But you can rest now. You can stand down.
When I called the “puppy free to a good home” number from Starbucks eight years ago, I wanted companionship and protection. I was a relatively new homeowner, living in a townhouse with a partially fenced yard. I had an inspiring job and a boss I loved, and I was halfway through a book I would ultimately finish and self-publish, and I could only imagine life getting better.
In retrospect, that seems naive to the point of stupidity. Within six months of adopting you, my job went away and I was transferred into a position I hated. A new vice president made working conditions hellish. I’d been spending 40-hour weeks at the office and coming home to write. Suddenly I was working 60- to 70-hour weeks (with no extra compensation, no appreciation, not even any acknowledgment) and I was too exhausted to do much the rest of the time except take you on walks and read murder mysteries (no vicarious angst there).
You kept me sane. You kept me going. You kept me out of the psych ward when I had what used to be known as a nervous breakdown — I burst into tears at the office one day and sobbed hysterically for hours. I left work early, drove home, and took you to the park. And finally, finally I could breathe again. I have always floated away so easily, and you kept me grounded.
Yummy Sonic burger…You had a bacon double cheeseburger and half of my cheeseburger and then rooted, increasingly frantic, through the leftover veggies and bun seeking more burger.
My office was in an old building in a bad part of town. When I had to work late alone, I’d run home and fetch you so I wasn’t there unguarded. We’d be there, you and me, until 10 or 11 or midnight, and I knew you were protecting me. I wasn’t scared of the ghosts that allegedly haunt that building – I would have welcomed a sighting — but I was scared of the people who lurked on the sidewalk outside, who potentially stood between me and the safety of my car. You kept them away. Your size and your coloring and that vicious, deep bark chased away the human monsters.
Finally I left that job. It was ruining my physical and mental health and everything else good in my life. I took you and the cats and fled across the United States. At a rest stop somewhere — I no longer remember where — a random guy offered me $500 for you. He didn’t know you; he didn’t love you; he didn’t know why you were worth so very much more than that. I could never put a price tag on you.
When I called about adopting you, I wanted companionship. And you have provided that in spades. You were my companion on that cross-country move and two subsequent ones. You have accompanied me to the Gulf Coast (you ran in the mud and played with a hermit crab shell), through a Christmas Eve ice storm in Texas (we–you, me, the cats, the python–spent the night in my Civic at a Love’s truck stop somewhere just west of Dallas, and it’s still one of my favorite memories of that trip), to the Pacific Northwest, through blizzards, through two Colorado summers that saw forest fires ravage the city where we lived, to the mountains, and back to Georgia. You adored snow even when I wanted to curl up and die if another flake fell. When I let you run off leash, you chased crows and magpies and almost caught them. You were with me last spring when I caught tadpoles and brought them home to grow in my kitchen. You helped me find the fairy rings at the park near where we live now.
You have been a more loyal and unconditional friend than anyone could ask.
And you have protected me so, so well–far better than I could have protected myself. You have not only kept the criminals away (a security company sales rep once told me, “I won’t even try to sell you anything, because nothing I have is as good as that dog”), but you have protected me from demons I thought I had vanquished long before you came into my world. You have protected me from insanity. From a depression so abyssal and sticky I almost didn’t find my way out. From utter despair. From grinding insomnia. From suicide. You have literally stood between me and death, not just once but many times, and for months, for years.
Thank you. At least partially because of you, I’m okay now. You did your job with every ounce of your considerable strength and fortitude and determination and energy. You chased away the nightmares and you helped save me from myself.
I accidentally discovered that you loved Chick-fil-A because I once left my meal in the car with you while I got gas (what was I thinking?!). When I got back into the car, of course you had not only eaten all my food but most of the cardboard too. So yesterday I got you a final Chick-fil-A lunch.
Since I talked to the vet on Friday and we set the date and time tomorrow, you have shown me just how weary you are. I think you realized you finally could stop putting up a front for me. You’re worn out, exhausted, and in pain. Often you whimper. Yesterday you groaned for five minutes straight. When I laced up my running shoes — which has always triggered manic enthusiasm on your part, because it signals either a walk or the lawn mower — you looked at me, went into your crate, and lay down. You’re resting in your crate as I type this, after a long, long snuggle in your favorite chair during which you wriggled onto your back so I could scratch your chest. For the last week, you have been showing and telling me that you’re tired, you’re finished, you’re ready to go.
Many, many times I have said to you, “Don’t leave me yet. I don’t know what I’ll do without you.” And now I know, sort of: It will hurt like hell, but I will get through it. I will not keep you here when you’re weary and hurting. And I will not let myself fall back into a depression over losing you, or become morbidly obsessed, or do anything self-destructive. For you, I will experience and endure this pain, and I will come out the other side.
You with your “cousin,” Chief
As I’ve typed this, I’ve been playing “So Far Away” by Avenged Sevenfold on repeat. A few lines that particularly stand out:
A life that healed a broken heart with all that it could…
Sleep tight, I’m not afraid/ The ones that I love are here with me/ Lay away a place for me/ ‘Cause as soon as I’m done, I’ll be on my way to live eternally…
The light you left remained but it’s so hard to stay/ When I have so much to say and you’re so far away.
I love you/ You were ready…Your pain is gone, your hands untied
Tomorrow when sleep comes for you, I will be there, my hand clasped around your paw. I will talk to you and pet you and wash you in love as you pass. If I cry, it will be because I know how much I’ll miss you, not because I am trying to make the passage more difficult for you or keep you here past your time. I hope you go gently into that good night.
I will always love you, Bishop.
Requiescat in pace.